Thursday, April 02, 2009

My Mom HNT

My mom has been battling dementia and now Alzheimer for a few years. It's finally made her incapable of living on her own. On March 6th, she was admitted to the hospital due to VERY high blood pressure. She kept screwing up her meds.

It's a long story, but I had to make the decision to admit her in a long term care facility, but we're not sure where that's going be right now. I'm going to try like hell to make it an assisted living facility so she has a little bit of control for the rest of her life, but probably not.

I love you mom.

16 comments:

TUG said...

I know it must be hard for you. It's because you love her that you're making the decision. My mom and her siblings had to do the same for my grandfather, for the same reasons. I remember how hard it was for them. You're a good son.

BTExpress said...

I just want her safe. Actually, she's very happy. She's been living alone for too many years and now she has people to talk too.

Ashly Star said...

While this post was short and mostly just basic fact, it made me get misty eyed. I think Alzheimer disease is one of the worst things on the planet. I've seen it take over lives and it just breaks my heart.

You're a great son. :) That picture is great. *hugs*

Happy HNT.

Monogram Queen said...

I can only imagine the toughness of this situation but if she's happy about it that is such a blessing.
My Great Grandmother went into an assisted living facility on her own in her eighties and loved it. All her friends were there and she enjoyed good health until about age 95 she passed away at 98.

My best to your dear Mother!

Dana said...

Ohhh ... I'm sorry to hear this. I know it's likely that the day will come when I'll need to make a similar decision for one of my parents and I do hope to handle it with the utmost dignity!

Thoughts and prayers are with you!

marcellonyc said...

That is a brave and very hard decision to make. It truly is the best possible way fro her to live out the rest of her life. She will get all that she needs and the right place will make sure that she is happy and having as much fun as she can, if possible.

I was in your shoes last year with my grandfather, and helped my dad and uncles make their decision.

HHNT and if you ever need someone to vent to, send me an email and I will give you my number - always available to chat (((((hugs))))

Osbasso said...

Ugh...I dread the possibility of making that decision. Fortunately, I won't be alone in making it.

When my grandmother died, my grandfather wasn't able to live on his own, so my dad got him into an assisted living facility. It was like a second wind for him. Rumor has it that he entertained the ladies on is floor well into the night!

Q said...

Yeah, we moved my grandfather into a Seniors Apartment complex last summer & he loves it. I hear he's entertaining the ladies, as well!

That is such a cute picture! Best of luck with your mom.

jillie said...

Oh Tony...you are a good son. You love her and you want her to be safe. Good luck to you and BIG (((HUGS))

Libby said...

tony, all i can do is add my best wishes, & echo the knowledge that you are a good son! really, at this moment, the important thing is that she stays happy & as healthy as possible, so she's in the right place for that.

Kittie Kate said...

I read something about aluminum being in the brains of people with Alzheimers so I'm very careful not to buy anything that has aluminum in it. I won't cook with aluminum pots and instead of baking powder, I use one part baking soda, one part corn starch. It's close.

Wishing you best. That's a tough decision.

Kittie Kate said...

Oh, can't wait to check my email now. My turn, huh?

Evening said...

I am so sorry about Mom. I know how this feels to some extent, we are dealing with the same thing with my mom.
I am sending you a big hug.

AND I LOVE THE PICTURE!!

Lil Bit said...

Ohh, what a wonderfully touching tribute, Tony! -- adorrrrable pic!

My heart goes out to you, dear .... dealing with aging parents is sooooo difficult. Trust me, I know.

*big hugs*

gab said...

I know thats the hardest thing to do. My sister and I are battleing the same issue with our dad. I believe he needs to be in a care facility but sis says he told her that if we put him there he will kill himself! He insists on staying at home and dying there like my mom did. Thing is mom had cancer not Alzheimers. So what to do is something we gotta figure out soon. This is one reason I haven't blogged lately because I have such mixed angry feelings and I know my sis reads my blog. SO I dont really want to hurt her. I did try to put something from U tube on today but I couldnt get link to work!

lime said...

i'm so late getting here, sorry.

also sorry to hear the news. there's a history of this on my mom's side of the family and it's just hard all the way around, watching people slide away. glad to hear in your response to tug that she is happy, that must make it easier than if she were angry about the move.